Recently mother of nine year old boy Quaden Bayles from Australia posted a heartbreaking video of him crying in his family car. Bayles was crying because he was very hurt. He was hurt by his fellow students, who were bullying him often as he is suffering from achondroplasia, dwarfism condition. The bullying was so horrifying for the little boy and suicidal thoughts were coming in his mind. After the video clip went viral, thousands of people came in support of Quaden, supporters showed sympathy including Hugh Jackman who tweeted in support of little boy saying, “you got a friend in me”. Quaden received an invitation to lead the Indigenous All Stars NRL team and walked on to the pitch when they played against Maori All-Starts. Entire stadium cheered when they saw little Quaden walking hand in hand with Joel Thompson, the Captain of the team.
Bulling is a very distressing experience. Thousands of kids are committing suicide because of bullying in school premises. Schools and parents of bullies must act so that other kids will be safe mentally and physically. When parents, teachers and adults respond to bullying behavior of kids quickly and consistently, it will send the message that the bullying is not acceptable. Community, school, friends and parents can help kids prevent bullying by talking about it, building safer environment and by creating a community wide bullying prevention strategy.
“Meanness is a sign of weakness”
Be Kind to one another – Stop bullying
Do you know one in five kids get bullied daily in every school? Do you know what impact it has on kids who get bullied? It is not a good experience at all.
The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
How to stop bullying? Here are suggestions.
What you need to do?
- Give respect to others and treat everyone the way you wanted to be treated by others
- Don’t be mean to others
- If you don’t know someone then don’t pass comments that can be hurtful
- Don’t be a part of group that is mean to someone
- Don’t encourage mean behavior of others
- If you remember bullying someone in the past -approach and apologies to that person.
- All are different, accept it.
What to Do If You’re Bullied
- Look at the kid who is bullying you and stay calm and ask him/her to stop in a clear voice.
- Walk away from the person who is bullying you
- Approach an adult who can help you with situation and talk to an adult to express your feelings.
- If you are a target then be with group of friends. Or around adults.
- Stay away from those places where bullying happens
Protect Yourself from Cyber bullying
Bullying also happens using smartphones, computers, laptop, tablets – known as cyber bullying.
- Think before you post something. Anyone can forward your posts
- Do not share anything that could hurt embarrass a person or anyone
- Don’t give your password to other kids. Only your parents are the ones who must know your passwords
- If your parents ask about your online activities, be honest and explain them what you doing.
- Allow your parents to be friends with you on social network – don’t hesitate or don’t feel embarrassed about it. After all, they are your parents and they worry about your safety.
- Don’t respond to any strangers whom you don’t know and don’t be friends with strangers.
- If you get any messages from strangers or anybody that is not appropriate, tell your parents or teachers.
Stand Up for Others
- Talk to an adult whom you trust and let them know when bad things are happening. Don’t hold back.
- Be supportive, be kind to the kid who is being bullied. Include them in your group. Sit and talk to them, walk with them. Your support will give them confidence and feeling they aren’t alone.
- If you see someone bullying – report it immediately. Don’t approach bully alone, have group of friends or bring it to adult’s attention.
- Think how you can help stop bullying, share your ideas. All the time adults don’t know what is happening with kids. Explain exactly what is happening in school.
- Along with your friends talk to a teacher, counselor, coach, or parent and can add what they think.
- Participate in school safety committee program. Talk to school head about getting involved in anti-bullying squad.
- Write your thoughts and spread awareness about ill effect of bullying.
(October is bullying awareness month. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance)
As Ellen DeGeneres says – spread the words “Be kind to one another”.
Author: Sumana Rao | Posted on: February 25, 2020